June and Friends

So let Summer begin....

It wasn't all bad

Please can we go

So I count down is officially over and Summer is finally here.  Hooray!!!!! Now what to do???? Swimming lessons!  I always start things with the best intentions, but I should listen to that voice in the back of my head that says "Are you sure?".  Needless to say I didn't listen and we started swim lessons anyway the first week out of work.  What made me tentative was that I decided to take some classes at the YMCA and the times they had available didn't work for Hudson's nap schedule.  I figured one day a week how bad can it be.  But that little voice in my head tried to warm me.  All in all we survived.  Through a lot of tears I learned that my child is NOT flexible.  He is definitely my child and likes things to be routine and this was not part of his routine.  So instead of going to the pool I was assure was heated and was not, for the last class I took him to the YMCA and did the class myself at a time that worked for us and didn't have to watch his lips turn blue and shiver.  It was so much better.  It has been A LOT of years since I taught swimming, but hopefully it is like riding a bike and we'll do just fine.

1 year ago

Father's Day we headed out on the road to see some Dinosaurs.  Sometimes I get these ideas in my head and all Jeremy can do is go along with them.  After 16 years I guess he's used to it.  So we hit the road, this time dragging my dad along for the long ride to Salt Lake City.  I probably had more fun then anyone.  Of course Hudson has no clue what we are looking at except he did learn a new word "Tops" for triceratops.  I truly think that it is more about spending time together than it is about what we are doing.  I remember going on long trips with my dad and being stuck in the car with your family only results in conversation.  I think it is harder these days with I-phones and I-pads distracting us, but we still visited, laughed, and talked about nothing in particular.  At one point in the trip I took a picture of Hudson and Jeremy and couldn't believe how much Hudson has grown in the last year.  My baby is getting to be so big and I hate when I miss anything.  There are still times when I look at him sleeping and it doesn't feel real.  I know that sounds silly, but it's true.  I look at him and expect to wake up from this great dream.  I can't believe he's mine! Thank you Lord for not giving me what I deserve!
I say this now because at some point this month God has decided to remind me of what I deserve and take my easy going child and replace him with alter ego Hudson.  When I first got out of work I knew that my very structured child would have some issue with the transition of me being home all the time.  I take a lot of guff from people about how structured I am with Hudson and how nuts I am about consistency in his day to day, but if they could see him in June they would LOCK IT UP!  Due to the swimming lessons his nap schedule got interrupted, and we were coming to the point of phasing out that morning nap.  No matter how hard I tried to hold on to that beloved nap this month we said goodbye to our old friend.  I feel like he needs an obituary...

This month we lost a true friend and integral part of the Miller family.  Although he held on longer than he should it was still difficult to say goodbye.  He leaves behind a mother in desperate need of caffeine.  Donations will be accepted in the form of Starbucks gift cards.

Now that the grieving process is over I have to say that I have truly enjoyed my mornings.  It wasn't like that in the beginning though.  We began just taking a short morning nap but the only way Hudson would nap would be if he slept on me.  At first I probably made the situation worse because I had my snuggle bug back so I didn't put an end to it as fast as I probably should.  However, as my pediatrician says to me "Mom, he won't be going down the isle [insert issue] in this case sleeping on me. So I enjoyed the hour a day with Hudson's hot box body sleeping on me as I put off doing the things I didn't want to do anyway.  Then we transitioned to no nap in the AM, but the PM nap was a fight.  I ended up spending most of the afternoon laying on the floor next to his crib singing him to sleep.  When did he learn the word sing?? Anyway... The few times that I thought he was asleep and I tried to army crawl out of the room only ended with me being scolded by a less than two year old to "Sit, Sing!" So once again I would being making up words to songs or there were days where I was having complete brain blanks and the only songs I could come up with were from Bob Marley or Jimmy Buffett, which don't get me wrong I love, but singing wasting away again in Margaritaville might not be the best.  There were days that I thought going back to work might be the answer, but I'm not that crazy (no comment).

By the end of the month his neediness subsided and he realized I wasn't going to disappear.  I could now set him down, leave the room to pee, not sleep on the floor, and play the radio on SOS rather than sing. 

Cheesy grin

The best reminder this month for me was friendship. This month I was reunited with a great friend. In my life I have been lucky enough to have people that I can be completely honest with, put myself out there for, and they are my friend regardless. This month I was lucky enough to reconnect with a friend from college who is all that and more.  We all know that I am terrible with phones and staying in touch (I'm working on it), but Ang never gives up on me and accepts that about me and works that much harder to stay in touch.  We both have moved (her out of the country for awhile) and as a result lost touch and haven't spoken in years and yet when she finally got a hold of me it was like no time has passed at all. I have taken her and her friendship for granted and I will never do that again.  I realize what a great friend she is and how much that I have truly missed her.  I won't make that mistake again.  I want to make sure that Hudson learns how to be a friend and what it takes to have great friendships in life.  I will lead by example. 
She will be here for a visit in a few weeks and I can hardly wait!  Since being pregnant some of my relationships with old friends has fizzled. We were the first in our core group of friends to have a child, a sick child at that, and our friends didn't quite know how to transition our relationship or what to say. We ended up being isolated since we couldn't do a lot of social activities we'd done before, and by the time we could we had stopped being invited and relationships were strained. As a result that, and Ang have brought friendship into perspective for me and how much I value the great friends that I do have that are there through thick and thin, day in day out. I have friends that I have known since I was a baby. I look at pictures of Hudson and Dean and wonder if it will be the same. I recently have been going through pictures and found some of me and the girls in my neighborhood (don't worry ladies I won't post them, I'll wait and use it as blackmail:) and hope that Hudson has the same great friends that I was and am lucky to have. Thankfully Dean has moved on from "Ninny" and now is being called by his real name so hopefully he doesn't hold that against him.

Friends

Water play with D-Duck on his birthday

Tara :)





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